Autobiography
I, just as everybody else, am original in my own way. Including my name. It’s not a common name, nor one that anybody I have ever encountered had heard of. My mom had never heard of it, either, for that is not how she named me. Never before had she heard that name or thought of it, until it came to her in a dream one night when she was pregnant with me. She originally had a different name in mind for me. But after this dream she had, she decided to name me Kylem.
After my birth on January 8th, 1995 in Odessa Texas, things weren’t exactly easy, including my time of arrival, since my parents were only 18 and 20 and I was their second child. I was brought into an unhealthy environment and unhealthy relationship between my parents. There were a lot of ups and downs in my life from a neglecting, drug addicted father, to my mom, my brother, and me leaving for a safe house. From there, things started to look up. Slowly but surely. Here is where my mom was able to find a bit of her footing.
From the safe house in Glenwood, my mom was fortunate enough to meet my soon to be step-dad. He helped our little family tremendously, in such ways that I can’t even explain. In their wedding that followed after years of dating, I was the flower girl as well as standing by my mom’s side in the ceremony. I remember being so happy that day because I finally felt that I had a dad to watch me grow, teach me things, and fill this void in my heart. Even to this day, he fits the role perfectly.
Things were good for a while. Including the birth of my little sister followed then by my brother a short few years after. It wasn't up until my mom was pregnant with my littlest sister that my older brother took a downward spiral when I was 14. This was hard on me. My older brother was there when things went bad with our dad, and we helped each other get through it. It was me and him against the world and I felt as if he was abandoning me and leaving me high and dry. Right around this time is when I went into therapy and was diagnosed with hypothyroidism. This is a problem that was setting off my hormonal balance and causing me to have anger issues and be depressed. After I was put on my medication, things began looking better.
During this time, I found myself in a relationship that wasn't exactly healthy. But yet I continued to stay for a year and three months before I found my common sense and left him. But that did not help my depression. Then I met somebody else in November of 2011, who change the world around, and made me feel as if I didn’t even need my medicine, so I stopped taking it and felt like I didn’t need it again. In the end of March, I found myself pregnant with his child. It was definitely mixed emotions between us both.
Growing up in a world where my father didn’t want me, made it hard for me. I have deep commitment issues and find it hard to trust any guy in my life; including my step father. This has made it hard on our relationship. I know that he loves me, and my mom, but I have always felt like he was going to leave just as my real dad and brother did because that is what I was used to. My step dad always wanted to be more involved in my life but I just couldn’t open up. As much as I wanted to let him in, I was scared. My father also made me have a very low self-esteem because I always felt like he didn’t want me because of how I am or how I look. I struggle with myself everyday. I’m still trying to love me for who I am.
Everybody wants approval from their parents. It makes them feel good about themselves. So I always fought to get my dad’s approval, and it never worked. I believe that that has pushed me to be the perfectionist I am today because I feel like I have to get everybodies’ approval to make up for the lack of my dad’s. Feeling the way I did as a child, I think is what pushed me to want to work with kids. It made me have a deeper love and understanding for kids and it pushed me to help them. All kids deserve love.
Even though I am aware of the challenges, I still remain a very closed off person. I have a huge wall built up around me that is very hard for people to get through. I am just always afraid of being hurt. A lot of people mistake me for being mean, but in reality, I’m just cautious. After so many years of questioning myself, and wondering what's wrong with me, I realized that its not me, it was my father. This helped me to let go of the past, and to quit fighting for something that is never going to be. When I did this, a whole new part of my life woke up. It felt like the world was lifted off my shoulders. Yes, I still have trouble with letting people in, but I am getting better.
One of the things I have grown to love about myself is that I don’t believe that I am selfish. I strive to help others, and better myself for others. I still try more than I probably should to be liked by others, but that is a part of me that is never going to change.
Growing up with a horrible father, made me realize a lot of things. For one, I don’t have to fall under any statistic about kids with druggy parents if I don’t want to be. It made me realize that I don’t want to be a part of that life any more. When I found out I was pregnant, I made sure things were going to be good for her. I vowed that I would never touch any drug, not even a cigarette. I made her father promise the same thing. I also made sure that her father was going to be there for her, and love her with all his heart because I don’t want her growing up feeling unloved and rejected by her father as I did. That is a huge burden on a girl’s shoulder.
I had always dreamed of being a mother and having a family, so it made me a little excited. But at the same time, growing up with a teen for a mother, I knew how hard it was and how much we struggled and how I didn’t want that for my baby. But after much deliberation between Jordan, our families, and me, we decided we will raise this baby to the best of our abilities. I do not regret making this decision at all. I love my baby girl more then life itself and she just brought me and her baby daddy closer together than ever. Coming from a rough childhood and upbringing, I feel as if life is starting to look up just a little more and I can finally start to see the silver lining to my dark cloud.
I, just as everybody else, am original in my own way. Including my name. It’s not a common name, nor one that anybody I have ever encountered had heard of. My mom had never heard of it, either, for that is not how she named me. Never before had she heard that name or thought of it, until it came to her in a dream one night when she was pregnant with me. She originally had a different name in mind for me. But after this dream she had, she decided to name me Kylem.
After my birth on January 8th, 1995 in Odessa Texas, things weren’t exactly easy, including my time of arrival, since my parents were only 18 and 20 and I was their second child. I was brought into an unhealthy environment and unhealthy relationship between my parents. There were a lot of ups and downs in my life from a neglecting, drug addicted father, to my mom, my brother, and me leaving for a safe house. From there, things started to look up. Slowly but surely. Here is where my mom was able to find a bit of her footing.
From the safe house in Glenwood, my mom was fortunate enough to meet my soon to be step-dad. He helped our little family tremendously, in such ways that I can’t even explain. In their wedding that followed after years of dating, I was the flower girl as well as standing by my mom’s side in the ceremony. I remember being so happy that day because I finally felt that I had a dad to watch me grow, teach me things, and fill this void in my heart. Even to this day, he fits the role perfectly.
Things were good for a while. Including the birth of my little sister followed then by my brother a short few years after. It wasn't up until my mom was pregnant with my littlest sister that my older brother took a downward spiral when I was 14. This was hard on me. My older brother was there when things went bad with our dad, and we helped each other get through it. It was me and him against the world and I felt as if he was abandoning me and leaving me high and dry. Right around this time is when I went into therapy and was diagnosed with hypothyroidism. This is a problem that was setting off my hormonal balance and causing me to have anger issues and be depressed. After I was put on my medication, things began looking better.
During this time, I found myself in a relationship that wasn't exactly healthy. But yet I continued to stay for a year and three months before I found my common sense and left him. But that did not help my depression. Then I met somebody else in November of 2011, who change the world around, and made me feel as if I didn’t even need my medicine, so I stopped taking it and felt like I didn’t need it again. In the end of March, I found myself pregnant with his child. It was definitely mixed emotions between us both.
Growing up in a world where my father didn’t want me, made it hard for me. I have deep commitment issues and find it hard to trust any guy in my life; including my step father. This has made it hard on our relationship. I know that he loves me, and my mom, but I have always felt like he was going to leave just as my real dad and brother did because that is what I was used to. My step dad always wanted to be more involved in my life but I just couldn’t open up. As much as I wanted to let him in, I was scared. My father also made me have a very low self-esteem because I always felt like he didn’t want me because of how I am or how I look. I struggle with myself everyday. I’m still trying to love me for who I am.
Everybody wants approval from their parents. It makes them feel good about themselves. So I always fought to get my dad’s approval, and it never worked. I believe that that has pushed me to be the perfectionist I am today because I feel like I have to get everybodies’ approval to make up for the lack of my dad’s. Feeling the way I did as a child, I think is what pushed me to want to work with kids. It made me have a deeper love and understanding for kids and it pushed me to help them. All kids deserve love.
Even though I am aware of the challenges, I still remain a very closed off person. I have a huge wall built up around me that is very hard for people to get through. I am just always afraid of being hurt. A lot of people mistake me for being mean, but in reality, I’m just cautious. After so many years of questioning myself, and wondering what's wrong with me, I realized that its not me, it was my father. This helped me to let go of the past, and to quit fighting for something that is never going to be. When I did this, a whole new part of my life woke up. It felt like the world was lifted off my shoulders. Yes, I still have trouble with letting people in, but I am getting better.
One of the things I have grown to love about myself is that I don’t believe that I am selfish. I strive to help others, and better myself for others. I still try more than I probably should to be liked by others, but that is a part of me that is never going to change.
Growing up with a horrible father, made me realize a lot of things. For one, I don’t have to fall under any statistic about kids with druggy parents if I don’t want to be. It made me realize that I don’t want to be a part of that life any more. When I found out I was pregnant, I made sure things were going to be good for her. I vowed that I would never touch any drug, not even a cigarette. I made her father promise the same thing. I also made sure that her father was going to be there for her, and love her with all his heart because I don’t want her growing up feeling unloved and rejected by her father as I did. That is a huge burden on a girl’s shoulder.
I had always dreamed of being a mother and having a family, so it made me a little excited. But at the same time, growing up with a teen for a mother, I knew how hard it was and how much we struggled and how I didn’t want that for my baby. But after much deliberation between Jordan, our families, and me, we decided we will raise this baby to the best of our abilities. I do not regret making this decision at all. I love my baby girl more then life itself and she just brought me and her baby daddy closer together than ever. Coming from a rough childhood and upbringing, I feel as if life is starting to look up just a little more and I can finally start to see the silver lining to my dark cloud.
Resume
Kylem Nichols
252 Cottonwood Dr. Silt, CO. 81625
(970)-945-7226 [email protected]
Objective
Experience
July 2011 - November 2011 Zumiez Glenwood Springs, Colorado
Sales Associate
June 2010 - July 2011 Peanut Hut Glenwood Springs, Colorado
Sales Associate
Education
August 2009 - June 2012 Glenwood Springs Glenwood Springs, Colorado
High School
August 2012 - Present Yampah Mountain Glenwood Springs, Colorado
High School
References
Available Upon Request
252 Cottonwood Dr. Silt, CO. 81625
(970)-945-7226 [email protected]
Objective
- My goals are to improve the lie of school children, educate them and prepare them for the world.
- Communication
- Computer skills
- Work very well with kids
- Great writing skills
Experience
July 2011 - November 2011 Zumiez Glenwood Springs, Colorado
Sales Associate
- Worked the cash register
- Helped customers find what they are looking for
- Cleaned up
June 2010 - July 2011 Peanut Hut Glenwood Springs, Colorado
Sales Associate
- Took orders
- Worked cash register
- Cooked food
- Cleaned up
Education
August 2009 - June 2012 Glenwood Springs Glenwood Springs, Colorado
High School
- Good Grades
- GPA of a 2.9
August 2012 - Present Yampah Mountain Glenwood Springs, Colorado
High School
- All A’s and B’s
- Finished credits early
- Completed graduation requirements early
- All Cats And Dogs Vet Clinic, January 2013 - March 2013
- Glenwood Springs Elementary School, April 2013 - May 2013
References
Available Upon Request